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Freedom from Familial Iniquity

“Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.” (Galatians 5:1)

The chains of bondage sometimes run so deep, and have us so entangled, when the Lord Jesus shows us we need to give up a thing in order to be free, we have no idea how to loose ourselves. Sometimes they are our own chains, other times they are ungodly spirits operating within others (familial iniquity perhaps), that we don’t realize are manifesting directly into our lives. Or, if we do see the manifestations, our heart for that person may prevent us from allowing the Lord Jesus to move how He needs to. We can’t seem to get out of the Lord’s way so he can go to work in said persons life.

The past two years of my life have been particularly trying. God has used everything I’ve walked through, myself and with others, to grow me and strengthen my Faith. These manifestations rarely seem to be my issues, yet I am affected adversely therefore take on the struggle. After enduring much in my personal life over the past year I have found myself growing more and more intolerant of people’s endless cycles of misery. Their misery, causes me misery because I end up feeling like I am supposed to help. It is my heart to help. Well, God has corrected me tremendously where “helping” is concerned, over this past year.

One person in particular whom I’ve chosen to help over and over, for more than 20 years (I am 42), the Lord has finally told me ‘no more‘ …stop interfering with what I AM trying to do in their life.  The reality: I’ve been parenting one of my parents since age 17. I have given and given to no end (money, use of my vehicle, housing, paying bills, etc…) and they have not chosen to make better choices or let the air of entitlement about them, fall. (This is called false burden bearing when it’s cyclical.) God is presently dealing with me on this issue in a very uncomfortable manner and I won’t lie: It’s really difficult. For many reasons. But, alas, He wants what He wants and I cannot…I WILL NOT…disobey my Lord. Not even for a parent.

“And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name’s sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.” (Matthew 19:29)

Several times recently I’ve had to deliver a stern message to this person (actually to the ungodly spirits operating within them), trying to motivate them to…well…leave my home. I, in fact, have had to pray a prayer of deliverance over myself and my home, casting out uninvited guests. Last night God had a message for the whole crew. It isn’t the first time but this time God had a plan. And yet again, as has occurred multiple times over the past 6 years, a door opened to witness and minister to this person’s heart. Jesus so desperately wants this person to accept His life changing love and they constantly deny him. Mind you, I received my own set of orders in preparation for this talk. I don’t know another person who has to do a thing such as this, with their parent, so I know no one who could even relate to me. Not even my only sibling because she won’t. So, I stand alone, except for Jesus Christ (and a supportive sister or two in Christ).

She stands alone with her Faith, in her faithless family…

In a strange way I sense the Lord is separating the wheat from the chaff (Matthew 3:12) in my life so that I may be free from any spiritual bondage, in order to do His complete will. Am I cutting all ties? No way, that’s not what He wants at all…that’s what the enemy would want. What the Lord wants is for me to firstly, set healthy boundaries in the relationship. Secondly, to once and for all, surrender this person to His grace and mercy so they stop turning to me, so HE can save them. It’s not my lot in life (Jesus’ not mine) and I’ve known this for much longer than I’ve been born-again, but was guilted by it to the core. (But to be frank, I’m exhausted of the constant disappointment and being drug down by other people’s stuff, and sense my weary spirit is relieved by this revelation of God in my life. Praise Jesus!)

There is no guilt (which is a device the enemy uses to make us go into condemnation) in Jesus for doing His will.


There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” (Romans 8:1)

So, after I delivered the message, I was instructed to answer a question this person had posed many times. A question I’d been given the wisdom to answer by the Holy Spirit, yet until recently, was never released to share. The ultimate ‘seeking’ question: “why does this keep happening?” And God finally answered. Now I pray the love, His love, poured down onto them with the answer, in the knowledge, will finally push this person into HIS arms. I pray He provides for them abundantly. I pray he breaks 60 years of pain, hurt, unforgiveness, unloving spirits, oppression and victimization that have kept this person in bondage for a lifetime. Jesus ONLY YOU can do this and I am entrusting you with this person.Whatever it takes… <heavy sigh>

I have this quote from Todd White that I hold tightly to, in moments such as this:”If a person doesn’t see the light of Christ in you, then they don’t want what you have…” (From the documentary, “Father of Lights”)

I know what I know, that I know what I know…and I know that God wants this. The time is now. I am no longer permitted to do things for people they can do for themselves! I am hereby released from this generational (familial) iniquity. Let freedom reign, amen!

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.” (John 3:16-17)

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